My friend and fellow author’s new book, LET. IT. GO. How to Stop Running the Show & Start Walking in Faith released YESTERDAY! Please keep reading for a sneak peek and interview with KAREN EHMAN and a chance to WIN a FREE copy!!!
Women are wired to control. We make sure the house is clean, the meals prepared, the children are dressed, and everyone gets to where they’re going on time. But sometimes our strength of being conscientious can morph into the weakness of being a slight—or all out—control freak! This humorous, yet spiritually practical book will help you to:
Special Interview with Author Karen Ehman
1. Karen, you seem to be a Recovering Type A, like I am. What brought about your change from trying to be “in control?”
I saw how it was negatively impacting my relationships, especially with those in my immediate family. No one likes a control freak!
2. Was there a special impetus for writing Let. It. Go.?
I discovered at the root of why we over-control is that we really don’t trust God. We think we know better than Him just what is best for us.
3. In what area do you most STILL struggle with letting God take it?
The behavior of my kids. I want to make them behave and make good choices although I know sometimes we have to learn lessons the hard way through our own bad choices and the results. I just want them to choose the right way to spare them the heartache (okay…and sometimes to spare my reputation as a mom!)
4. What is your FAVORITE tip in the book?
It is a chapter called soul control where I walk women through learning how to control their emotions when they can’t control the situation.
5. What is your best advice for women who keep giving things to God but then “taking it back” in the form of worry, or trying to control outcomes, situations, relationships, etc.?
We need to learn to stop asking God to take us out of our circumstances and instead we need to ask, “What does God want me to learn about Him that I might never discover if He were to suddenly pluck me out of these circumstances?”
6. For those of us who want to take the Let. It. Go. Christmas Challenge, what’s your favorite way to reclaim the special sparkle of this holiday?
Learn the thrill of an “out-of-control Christmas” where we allow others to make decisions, call the shots, even {gasp} decorate the house! Learning to defer and back off helps us to live the relinquished life and trust God instead of trying to control.
Weren’t those great ideas? I’m going to try an “out-of-(my)-control Christmas this year. Who knows, it just might be the best one ever.
**For a chance to WIN a FREE copy of Karen Ehman’s new book, just post a comment telling us how YOU are going to STOP taking control this Christmas and TWO readers will be drawn at random!!!!
I am going to welcome my 9 year old daughter’s decorating tastes with our Christmas decorations!
Simplifying Christmas by staying home and not attending every event possible.
This year, I’m going to ask my family to list the things they think are important traditions. We’ll focus on those things first & if we have to let some of the things go, then so be it. (it sounds so easy as I type this out, but I know it will be hard to play out if some things don’t make the cut. )
I plan to not focus on the decorations, etc. and just let things happen this year! THis will be a big challenge for me.
I am trying verrrrryyy hard to let go of some issues in my life and I am really looking forward to reading this book for some tips to help me! Thank you, Karen, and God bless you for writing this book!
Letting it all go and letting God drive my heart!!!!
This sounds like exactly the book I need! Since becoming a mom, I have become a control freak even though I never thought of myself in that way before. I need to get this book on my Christmas list!
I know exactly how that feels, Kristie!
Cindy, I am right behind you and Karen on the type-A recovery bandwagon! I would love the opportunity to win this book! Thank your for your ministry!
I am going to Stop taking contol this Christmas Again! Our accident 2007 which I was in hospital still at that Christmas, every year since has been Hard to “Let it Go” not doing everything…Everyone still loves to come to our house But Now that I am somewhat handicap & not being able to do much, it’s hard seeing others do what I use to.
It’s a matter of attitude. If I go into the season with the right attitude and eternal perspective, I’ll likely continue this way of thinking. To help stop the stress this Christmas, I have taken the time to prepare cards and presents and wrappings now! With less stress, it’s easier to not get into that natural way of trying to control everything, while having that ever deepening feeling of being out of control!
My plan to stop taking control this Christmas is to ditch the notion that my house has to be perfect — after all, we rarely have visitors for holidays. I want my kids to have some creative control
thank you!
Ditch away, Amanda!
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This year instead of telling my husband where we will be going for the holidays and what I would like to do, I am listening to and taking HIS ideas into consideration. For example. We live in the Ozarks and have no blood family–my husband suggested we have the interns from the local Wildlife Rescue over for dinner on Thanksgiving as they are away from their families. There are 12 interns. As is turns out-10 have to work that day. So at my husbands suggestion, we are bringing Thanksgiving Dinner to them so they all can have a home cooked meal. I think it’s a great idea and I am so grateful I am open to listen to what he would like to do….he has a heart of gold and loves the Lord.
I sure hope to win this book because there are other control issues I need help letting go of.
God Bless,
Nancy
Going to let one daughter decorate the outside, the other, the tree.
Really……….
NO comments about either.
Really.
I am going to stop worrying and fretting over the little things. I am going to give myself permission to enjoy the time and season with my family and not worry about everything being “perfect”.
I’m TRYING to not get into the PERFECT mode this Christmas.
I have agreed that my husband can pick which lights to put on the tree every other year……it’s a start:) He likes the colored ones and I like plain white.
I just talked with my adult children over the last couple days about Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. We have always gone to Church and opened gifts on Christmas Eve ever since they were babies. In fact, that is how it was when I was growing up and it continued on into my family. It has gotten to be so rushed and not very enjoyable at all. So, the family is all in agreement to open gifts on Christmas Day and go to Church on Christmas Eve and play some games or go to look at Christmas lights. This is all part of my letting go of trying to control what our family does for Christmas.
Good for you, Lori, to change a tradition that isn’t working in a new season of life!
We are starting with Thanksgiving. Whatever is committeed to on the menu is what we will have, nothing more. It is too much for me to get the house ready – with help- and complete the whole dinner for 17. It’s time to let it go!
Amen! Good for you…
I am going to pause, pray, and let the hubby and kids have fun decorating this year. I would love a copy of the book to help me let God control the reigns and be in control.
I love the idea of handing literal reins over to God, Janine. Pause & pray is a good start.
Don’t know where to start
I feel that…
I don’t really have a plan for Christmas. Family will be out of town and I am in transition right now. My thoughts have been centered around myself and how I can create a better Christmas for myself. After reading this interview, I was struck by the idea that I can look at the situation instead as to what is God trying to teach me. I need to let go of the “What about me?” chaos inside my head and instead look at how I might be able to make this Christmas special for someone else. Create opportunity instead of opposition and remember that Jesus came into this world to give life to any situation. Looking forward to this book!
Maybe NOT having a plan is best, Kristi!
Try not to get stressed out when things don’t go as planned. Try to be more flexible and be more organized.
Flexible. One of my favorite quotes: “Blessed are the flexible, for they shall never be bent out of shape!”
Good for you, Karie!
I am smiling right now as I am sitting here thinking of how I am constantly “fixing” the ornaments after my children touch or rearrange them, all throughout the weeks we have the tree up. I am sure the earth will still spin even if my tree is not evenly and neatly decorated.
I have done that too, Colleen.
At least you are smiling…
I am going to try to “schedule” less this holiday and be in the moment.
Sounds good to me!
Colleen G.
vageyers@aol.com
“In the moment.” Great reminders…
This Christmas I’m going to let go of our schedule. Our schedule is going to be busy and not perfect and I need to go with the flow better this year. If the schedule changes, that’s ok, if my daughter needs more time with me just cuddling instead of doing whatever Christmas activity I have planned, that’s ok. I’m going to do my best this year to remember it’s about making better memories, not about me getting my agenda across.
Cuddling! Memories, not an agenda. Good plans.
I feel as if I will need to do a lot of biting my tongue, or leaving a room in order not to say something about food being prepared, gifts given, etc. I desire to Let. It. Go. and will this girl ever need the grace of God! I guess I should pray, pray pray as my first line of defense. thanks for offering a giveaway!
Carolyn…perhaps the bite marks on our tongues can heal this Christmas, LOL!
I am going to rely more on God this Christmas. I am going to try and spend more time reading and studying God’s word.
That IS the reason for the season, Kristen, and will always bring peace.
My husband loves to be spontaneous…so this Christmas I’m going to try to let him…I want to say “yes” to the spontaneous fun stuff that he suggests we do during the Christmas season instead of always sticking to “my plan”
Spontaeity! I have that love-hate relationship with it too, Wendi.
I am going to try and let my inlaws love on my children instead of trying to manage how they discipline them. It bothers me when they let my kids do and get away with ridiculous stuff, but I need to enjoy the break and be grateful that my kids are loved!
Good point, Jacquie! I remind myself that they are little for a little while, and it’s just a small time in perspective to fret about the “extras” they get at grandparents’ house.
I am not going to overschedule things to do, but to allow down time to just enjoy the spirit of the Christmas season.
Sloooooowing down, Erin! That’s the ticket.
Christmas is not a problem when it comes to control but I would love to read the book especially the chapter on soul control.
Good for you for just enjoying Christmas! Soul control sounds like it could be an issue for all of us!
Well, I am a co-dependent type person.
This Christmas I hope to allow my grown children to be themselves, instead of me trying to fix them.
As the sub-title says I really need to `stop running the show and walk in faith`
I hear you, Michelle…it’s difficult not to be the director of the show!
I’m a great candidate for Karen’s book. My controlling behavior has been known to drive my family/friends crazy!
I try to tame it….
This Christmas…I’m not going to flip out over the decorating and the presents. I’m going to slow down and ENJOY IT ALL!
PS- I’m giving away some McDonald’s money over at my blog!!
Wanda! You go girl. I pray that Christmas in your little kingdom is sweet and peaceful!
Every Christmas I take control because I have a long to-do list that has to get done. This year I am going with the flow and if things don’t get done – they don’t get done and it’s ok.
Monica! Whoo…good for you. I am going to TRY and follow your example, a rough one for those of us that are recovering Type As…:)
I’m going to let my grandkids not only decorate the tree the way they want, but plan the things they’d like to do before Christmas! I’m not focusing on store bought gifts this Christmas, but making things at home for most of my list. Planning to really enjoy the holiday season thru the eyes of the children!
This sounds like an amazing book. And makes me happy to know that I’m not the only one out there like this!
Thank you, Sherah! We all need to know we are not alone!